My heart goes out to anyone who loses a loved one at any time. In the midst of the world navigating a pandemic, grief and end of life journeys are immensely challenged. This new normal forces us to think about every interaction we encounter with one another in very unique ways. To families who are dealing with the loss of a loved one at this time, I can only imagine how difficult it is for you. Our ability to serve, guide and meet you in your loss requires us all to find new and creative solutions.
Social distancing has become a new way of life for now anyway. Presently, if you want to proceed with funeral arrangements, only ten people can gather together. If you are from a large family, then you are forced to choose who will attend or post pone the service to another date. These are not easy decisions. At the funeral where we want to reach out and offer physical comfort to one another, we are reminded not to. A hug and embrace allows us to connect to each other in such a meaningful way. Without that physical contact, it seems to me that our words and other gestures become even more important.
As such, I am compelled to write today especially to those grieving families who are directly affected by the many necessary restrictions of this pandemic. I want you to know that my thoughts and prayers are with you. Firstly, for the loss of the one you have loved. Secondly, to acknowledge that this pandemic has forced you to grieve at a very difficult time. Our social norms and rituals have dramatically shifted adding another systemic layer of grief and loss which we are learning to deal with, one day at a time.
My hope is that we can continue to find our way through this process together. The journey of death and grief is one we should never have to walk alone. May we continue to reach out to find new ways to offer services that are meaningful and support families in making their best decisions. For some, perhaps virtual services done in a timely fashion will be the best solution. For other families they may want to wait until they can have a full funeral ceremony with no limitations.
May our hearts be full of grace and kindness for each other in the days ahead.
Blessings,
Barb
Life Celebrant